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Feel your feelings

26 January 2020
Are you bored of being told to be positive about everything? 😴

Sometimes, you just don't feel like you can be positive about anything right? 🤔

It can be hard to train your mind to think more positively especially as our brains have a negativity bias (the brain leans towards fear to try and protect us from harm dating back to when we were cave people).

And, you know what, being positive all the time doesn't work, in fact it can make us ill if we supress the feelings that don't feel so good.🤢

If you're feeling angry, sad, scared, anxious, disappointed (insert your emotion here 🤔) then it's absolutely ok to feel that emotion. Something has happened or is happening which is making you feel that way.

This is how I deal with negative emotions (most of the time, sometimes I need someone to help me think differently too 😏):

1. Acknowledge that I have an emotion or that I'm feeling a certain way

2.Take some time to think about why I'm feeling like that, REALLY feeling like that. I can say it was the traffic, my partner has done something or things just aren't going my way. But underneath that, there is a reason for that emotion which generally leads back to a belief or thought about yourself.

3. Do something to let that emotion out – write in your journal, cry, shout, punch a pillow, go for a run, whatever works for you but try not to do say or do anything that you will regret later.

4. Now, I choose to do something to make me feel different, I take an action to change my thoughts or to do something that is within my control to change my situation or mindset. This could be to take action on a problem, a call to a friend, meditate to let things go/chill the f*&k out, watch a cheesy film, eat my favourite food...anything to change my mindset to one that is more positive.

Because, why would you not want to live with a mindset that works for you, not against you? 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️


So, feel all your emotions, not just the nice to have emotions, ALL of them.

Then choose how you want to feel...💖

and make it happen...💗

What will you make happen now?

#wilsonspirit #wellbeing #coaching #feelyouremotions #choices #createyourlife
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