Rewrite your Story
Reframe the stories you're telling yourself. There's a quote by Sitting Bull who said:
"Inside of me there are two dogs. One is mean and evil and the other is good and they fight each other all the time. When asked which one wins I answer, the one I feed the most."
Our minds are powerful and will believe whatever we tell ourselves. Once we've told ourselves something, our minds will seek out more evidence to prove that story to be true, therefore compounding that belief into reality.
This is great if the stories you tell yourself bring joy and positivity, but what if our brain's negativity bias wins out and your stories make you feel less than satisfied with your life?
Well, you have a choice what you feed your mind (dog).
I used to tell myself that I didn't fit in anywhere, I didn't belong in any group and was always waiting to be caught out for being an imposter. I kept repeating these thoughts over and over until I believed them. My actions reflected those beliefs by continually moving on from relationships and jobs.
Until, I started telling myself that I am the creator of my life, and it can be whatever I want it to be. I started believing in myself more, telling myself stories of who I am and who I can be.
Don't get me wrong, the majority of the time my mind defaults to the positive side but sometimes that other dog slides in and we have to have words!
Reframing Our Thoughts:
The key to transforming our self-talk lies in reframing our thoughts with intention and compassion. Instead of dwelling on perceived shortcomings or past mistakes, we can choose to focus on our strengths, achievements, and potential. By shifting our perspective from one of scarcity to one of abundance, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for growth.
6 Tips for Reframing our Stories:
- Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a good friend facing a challenge. We’re often much harsher with ourselves than we would be to others.
- Challenge Negative Assumptions: Question the validity of your self-limiting beliefs and replace them with more realistic and empowering alternatives. Ask yourself “Is this actually true?”
- Celebrate Small Victories: Acknowledge and celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and use it as evidence of your resilience and capability. Build your own fact file in your mind to defeat the negative self-talk.
- Visualise Success: Envision yourself overcoming obstacles and achieving your goals, reinforcing a sense of confidence and belief in your abilities. It’s one of the tactics professional sports people use to become more successful.
- Seek Support: Surround yourself with positive influences - friends, family, colleagues and mentors, who uplift and encourage you.
- Harness the Power of Affirmations: Affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves to reinforce desired beliefs and behaviours. Choose affirmations that resonate with you personally and reflect the reality you wish to create. You can use our Mindset Game Changer to help create affirmations that are aligned to you, by clicking here: Mindset Game Changer
As the architects of our own reality, we possess the power to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves.
By reframing our thoughts with compassion, courage, and intention, we can transform our self-talk from a barrier to a catalyst for personal growth and fulfilment.
Let's embrace the opportunity to rewrite our narratives, reclaim our power, and step boldly into the next chapter of our lives.
Remember, the stories we tell ourselves shape the world we inhabit. Choose yours wisely.
Let us know which stories might be holding you back or how you’ve reframed an old story to benefit you.
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